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Spiritual AbuseView
Spiritual AbuseMany survivors of domestic abuse have also experienced spiritual abuse, this may have been perpetrated by their spouses or by church leaders or members.CCPAS (an Independent Safeguarding Christian charity in the UK) has produced papers and pamphlets on this topic.In their pamphlet entitled, I Want to Understand Spiritual Abuse …
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Next time you ask ‘why doesn’t she leave?’ - remember this picture.View
Polly Neate, former Chief Executive of Women’s Aid wrote an article in iNews which included this image taken by a police officer on a domestic abuse call in London and shared on Twitter by the Metropolitan Police. This photo is shocking - knives are on each step on either side …
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#MeToo - Why men must speak out moreView
A guest blog from Jack McQuibban, Public Affairs Adviser at Cruelty Free International. From the Dorchester Hotel in London to a courtroom in Michigan. This week we celebrated 100 years since (some!) women were given the vote here in the UK, but recent events have continued to shine a light …
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Pornography and Domestic Abuse: Is there a link?View
Written by Restored Ambassador Susie Flashman-Jarvis. Pornography and domestic abuse: is there a link? I am a coach and counsellor, working for many years with clients both male and female. However, it is the plight of women who have suffered violence in many forms that is my focus today. My …
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Christmas offers no respite for domestic abuse victims or survivors.View
Christmas Offers No Respite Christmas offers no respite for domestic abuse victims who still live with their abusers and for survivors who have left. A recent online article in The Guardian highlights the reality for those still experiencing domestic abuse - the festive season does not provide a reprieve but …
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DARVO - Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and OffenderView
Abuse that is visible, as horrific as it is, is just the tip of the iceberg. As domestic abuse/violence is becoming more widely understood, there is recognition that a significant amount of abuse is not visible but no less impactful on the victim. And that physical abuse is not isolated …
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Are there Harvey Weinsteins in the church?View
The Harvey Weinstein story exemplifies many of the issues that we set up First Man Standing to address. There is a sickeningly familiar pattern in many of the revelations of abuse by a man in a powerful position against women who perceive that his decisions will affect their career and …
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10 Traits that Characterise the Abusive MentalityView
An article in a local paper, The Richmond and Twickenham Times, written by Grainne Cuffe, highlights a case of domestic abuse where a geologist at a Croydon company had been convicted after assaulting his ex-partner. ‘He had originally denied the assault but when presented with video evidence changed his plea …
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Sexual Harassment - conducive contextView
Sexual harassment should be treated like a gas leak: if you smell it, report it. It's been all over the news this week about the sexual harassment that Hollywood Producer Harvey Weinstein has perpetrated on a number of women. See the New York Times here for a catalogue of stories …
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Christine's story - chapter 1View
The RealisationI had run out of ideas, I had tried everything I could think of to fix my marriage. Counselling, marriage courses, trying to be the perfect wife, talking, listening, serving, praying, crying, trying to accept, brainwashing myself to like this life, losing myself in the kids, I was miserable, …